23 Apr #2 Respect: Counting Down the Top 7 Principles for Federal Leadership
In 1965, Otis Redding wrote and performed a song about a man demanding respect. It was not that great of a song, really, and it was not that popular. Redding’s song has a man who works all day and brings home a paycheck, saying his woman can “do him wrong” while he is gone, but he wants his “respect” when he gets home. The song was dismally transactional in tone.
And then there was Aretha Franklin’s version of the same tune. Franklin’s rewrite, in addition to adding the famous “R-E-S-P-E-C-T” and “sock it to me” lines in the chorus, had a different perspective. Franklin wrote her 1967 version as a strong, confident woman wanting a different kind of respect. Her song became a ballad of the Civil Rights movement for women and blacks. It made her the Queen of Soul, and the lyrics were covered by everyone from Diana Ross and the Supremes (with The Temptations), to Stevie Wonder, to Kelly Clarkson in winning American Idol.
Respect, in all versions of the song, is an inbound concept—the singer is asking to receive respect from his or her partner. This differentiates respect from dignity, which we defined in our sixth principle as being directed outbound from a principled leader. We so highly value the need to be respected that we list respect as our penultimate principle.
Whether we spell it out or not, Americans desperately need a country and leadership deserving of our respect. People and nations across the globe also need the United States to be a world power they can respect and will follow.
Respect to Whom Respect is Owed
Perhaps one of the reasons Aretha Franklin’s Respect was a bigger hit than Otis Redding’s was the difference in their vantage points. Yes, working hard all day is deserving of respect. So, too, is bringing home a paycheck from a job. Unfortunately, where Redding’s lyrics lost their way was in his attitude toward the woman. Redding’s prerogative was too entitled and self-serving to be helpful for present purposes.
Franklin, on the other hand, set a much better example for all of us, including our federal government leaders, by singing from the moral high ground. Our leaders, like Franklin, could command this position of respect by never “doing you wrong.” They also should ensure that the United States is in a position of strength in all ways. Franklin’s asking for “just a little bit” of respect was a wise example, too, because respect is something one should not even need to request and should never be overdone.
To Principle Based Politics, respect is something that is and will be paid to whom it is owed.
The key for our political parties and all of us as voters is to elect leaders who will be deserving of our respect and will lead in such a way that the world will pay its due respect, as well. We can determine this from our candidate’s policies on foreign relations, national defense, climate change, and racial justice, among other issues. And we can tell if politicians will command respect by whether they display other key principles like integrity, understanding, service, and dignity.
Yet another way to determine if a would-be leader will garner respect at home and abroad is by whether the person has credibility. Credibility, like respect, is something easier lost than gained. Losses of both credibility and respect can be permanent, also. Here is how credibility (and thus respect) can be lost: When our leaders lie, obviously, they (and we as a country) lose credibility and respect. When we make threats and don’t carry them out, we lose credibility and thus respect. In short, when our word is not good, we are no good to anyone as a leader, and no citizen, congress, or country will respect us.
In the Apostle Paul’s letter to the newly converted Christ-followers living in Rome during the first century, he addressed the question of whether Caesar’s government should be followed at all—should Christians pay taxes, obey secular laws, etc.? Paul disappointed some readers, no doubt, with an answer that remains instructive today for our current citizens and federal leaders alike. After several verses urging general submission to governing authorities, Paul bluntly concluded his instruction: “Give everyone what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.”
Two thousand years later, the challenge remains to find leaders who are truly “owed” respect.
Self-respect is imperative to being respected by others and, in turn, to bringing respect to our nation. This may offer a clue to the mystery of how America can be better respected internally and abroad. In short, we need leaders who display self-respect, not narcissism or insecurity. The confidence and pride reflected in Aretha Franklin’s woman define self-respect. It is the quiet knowing that one is demonstrating dignity and honor in word, thought, and deed.
“Well, what self-respecting person would even want to run for public office?” you sadly may ask. That is too cynical of a viewpoint, we gladly would answer.
There indeed are people out there who respect themselves too much to say nearly anything to get elected. Individuals do exist who would not want the office for its power or prestige. There are people who care more about the United States than they do about control. Volunteers actually would step forward with integrity and a desire to understand, to give respect, and to serve.
As voters, what we need to do is assure these self-respecting citizens that if they do run for office, we will nominate, endorse, campaign, and vote for them.
Top 7 Principles for Federal Leadership (hover over list for links to posts on previous principles)
Written by Quentin R. Wittrock, founder of Principle Based Politics.
Look for his posts twice each week, as this blog will explore and promote the idea of principle in politics, both as to individual elected leaders and our federal government as an institution.